I got a call from my oldest daughters school today, from the intervention specialist, it seems that my daughter has been cutting,not class,no nothing as simple as that,she has been cutting herself.
I am quiet distressed and I don't know what to do about this situation,
I am meeting with the intervention lady and Pan on Monday morning so we can figure out where to go from here.I asked Pan why she has been cutting herself and she said "Because I get so damn angry and I don't know what else to do." I told her to come and talk to me when she gets so mad.She said the words every parent dreads to hear."mom,I can't talk to you it just wouldn't work " ACCHHHKKK,can you hear my heart not beating, can you hear my lungs no longer breathing, can you hear my soul come to a screaching halt..What the FUCK do I do??????
I have had some people tell me from there own experience that there is nothing that can be done,once a cutter always a cutter.I don't want to believe this.I need to believe that with counseling and a strong support system that my daughter can move away from this cutting of herself.
I don't know what to do and I am not good with things like this, I know the basic stuff, be there for her, be proactive etc etc blah blah blah, BUT WHAT DO I DO???!!!!?????
If anyone that reads this has any insight, advice, or valum, please email me! mskajunkitty@yahoo.com.. I need some help with this one..oy vey.
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I have decided that I hate physical therapy and I hate MY physical therapist in particular,well one of them anyway..He actually had the nerve to tell me that I could be a better mom if I worked harder at physical therapy, WOW, I went off! and now in just an hour or so I have to go and see his ass again..I want to change physical therapists but L&I is paying for this and I don't think they will let me change..I have a ? about L&I .
Ass munch told me that my ex employer is paying for all this,hmm then why do us employees pay into L&I?Where does that money go if not to us when we get injured at work and get fired for it?Does it disapear into thin air,is it used to buy concrete for city sidewalks, does it line the pockets of politicians???And If the latter is the case then I want all my money back!
Just wondering,so if anyone knows please leave a comment and tell me!
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I dearly hope that everyone has a much better day then I have had so far, I will try to be more lighthearted later..Just not in the mood at the time of writing this..:(
7 comments:
I, too, have had a fucked up day.
Do not believe 'once a cutter always a cutter'. No. I don't have any advice about what to do. Perhaps make communication work and try to get her to release her anger in other ways. I will keep her in my prayers. It will get better.
ty cedia, I am surprised that you can see the post I cant see it on my page and have to do some rinky dink stuff to view it myself.blogger seems to be fuberred to day just as much as myself.Thanks for the thoughtful comments I appreciate it.
hiiiiiiii its me. ok i dont beleive once a cutter always. my 15 yr old sister was a cutter. her forearms(both of them) are covered in scars. she then continued to try and kill herself. but not but cutting surprizingly. by taking 60 aspirin. good thing she didnt know that aspirin doesnt work like that well. anyway, she now gets meds for her depression and she doesnt cut anymore. i know cuz i check her arms. DO NOT no matter how frustrated you get, yell at any point in time cuz that makes it worse. ever see the movie 13? they do that in that movie as well. its my sissys fave movie and i think thats how she learned it. i think they feel its a way out but if you show them other ways to handle their anger/sadness, theyll eventually stop. all she needs is a doctor of sorts and explain that if not careful she may kill herself and she may get scared and stop. my sissy did. good luck i hope it gets better for you. oh and im like my sissys mom. our mom died a few years ago and she said the same thing to me about not wanting to talk. i know it sux but you gotta respect it even if it hurts you. and it hurts like hell i know. BUT DO NOT PUSH!!! no matter what. i hope that this is helpful and im sorry your day was shitty.
oh and beware there is an anonymous bastard running around being shitty to people. i think he hits the links on everyones pages...
let me know if i was helpful at all
My heart goes out to you. My older wasn't a cutter, but she was suicidal, and I remember the feeling of abject terror when I got the call from school.
You need to pursue her in love, constantly. Communication is the hardest thing, especially with a teenage girl. I took my daughter with ME to counseling, individually and together.
Now she is a beautiful 21 year old woman with a baby on the way. We are closer than we ever were. You just need to hold on tight to her and find out what she is so angry and hurt about. It will take some time, but don't give up.
THANKYOU all of you for your hearfelt comments.each of you brought tears to my eyes,ty.
I talked to Pan again and she still wasn't very communicative,I am calling a counselor on monday morning,I need professional help with this and I don't think the intervention specialist will be enough,Pan did tell me that the gal was nice enough to give her her card incase she needed to talk over the weekend.
I just feel helpless,like an unseen man over board that doesn't quite get the swimming thing..ty for throwing out a rope all of you..............
{{Hugs}} I'm so sorry you had such a bad day. I agree - I'm sure your daughter can be helped. If the cutting truely comes out of anger, then perhaps a good counselor can help her find another way to deal with the anger. A good counselor would be able to help her learn that she CAN talk to you, and help you to help her feel more comfortable coming to you. I'll keep you in my prayers.
And I think that PT was out of line bringing your parenting into things. I hope you let him have it!
I emailed you... please be on the lookout for it.
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